Something Good I'm Reading

Good weekend for reading and thinking about this, that and the next thing. I'm beginning to get the feeling that if we had control freak parents and I did ... well, one was a control freak and one was completely absent ... we have a tough row to hoe when relating to others and particularly our own children. Pia Mellody's books are very interesting. She does workshops too, here in Boston and also out West where she's based, I think in New Mexico or Arizona, gotta check on that. Here's what the Amazon review from Publisher's Weekly says

"The author believes that many children are traumatized by parents who either shame (disempower) their children or force them into a parental role (falsely empower). Labeling both actions as abusive, Mellody provides examples of how children treated this way can recover and function more happily in the adult world. She details here how to erect healthy physical, emotional and intellectual boundaries that will foster rather than hamper intimacy and boost self-esteem. For example, she advises that affectionate approaches require controlled containment, e.g., when deciding to engage others in sexual intimacy, it is necessary to respect their physical boundaries by asking permission. In order to really communicate, people in close relationships should maintain other boundaries such as refraining from giving unasked-for advice, accusing or making judgments."